From "I do" to "We do"

VEREENIGING- Florence Mathe, the writer of ΓÇ£The Unloved WifeΓÇ¥ hosted a marriage seminar themed ΓÇ£Family BondsΓÇ¥ on Saturday at the Vereeniging City Hall. This event was attended by a numerous married and unmarried couples. According to Mathe, the main purpose of this seminar was to create an awareness about individuality, and understanding that you and your spouse or partner are two different people, with different personalities. Mathe says that what she finds most troubling, is that there are more couples that are getting divorced than married. She concludes that in most cases, couples get divorced because they use inconsolable differences as an excuse. Bishop Isaac Mthimkulu from Koinonia Bible Church also hosted an insightful sermon about marriages and differences between a man and a woman. He emphasizes the importance of making sure that you and your partner share the same values and standards and that there should be a common goal or vision, before you start thinking about courtship or marriage. This will ensure that you do not wake up one morning and realize that the person next to you is a total stranger. Mthimkulu says that once a couple has a shared vision for their family, the dream could be accomplished only if they make a conscious decision to work together. ΓÇ£No marriage is perfect and there will always be disagreements, but that does not mean that you have to end up loathing each other. It is normal. You perceive things differently because you are two different people. Arguments in marriages have to happen sometimes, so see it as an opportunity to straighten out the crinkles in your relationships. Do not see an argument as an open door to attack or antagonize the other person. Let us try and find a common goal for the family and be united in the family dream,ΓÇ¥ says Mthimkulu who adds that divorce has never been a solution unless you are in an abusive relationship. He emphasizes that a married couple has to understand the importance of having a family. Mthimkulu also says that it saddens him to hear how people disrespect the concept of marriage. Just because they are ignorant and selfish, they refer to marriage as ΓÇ£being hell,ΓÇ¥ but it does not have to be like that. Mathe adds on MthimkuluΓÇÖs idea that marriage will be as strong as the foundation that you have built it on. The seminar surely has created an impact on all the attendees, as they walked away with homeworks to do, eager to make transformations in their lives. In conclusion Mathe says that family bonds and affairs are there to put us on the right track.
Source: Vaal Weekly